The Ultimate Guide to Create a Bullet Proof Confidence of Kids

The Ultimate Guide to Create a Bullet Proof Confidence of Kids
August 14 08:40 2016

The foundation of building confidence of your child, it all starts from the very young age for your child.

It’s not that the adults cannot build confidence; it’s just that if the proper foundation isn’t laid out, it’ll get really difficult for your child to perform and achieve any kind of success ahead.

Of course, kids do need plenty of support and encouragement in their early years but make sure to keep a line between compliment and exaggeration.

Kids are smarter than you think and they’ll instantly differentiate between a fake compliment and a genuine one.

So make sure to praise the kids for the right thing in a right way.

Here are some other tips and tricks to lay the foundation of confidence properly.


Unconditional Love

The most important thing you could communicate with your child is to let them know you love them no matter who you are.

This is harder than it seems. This communication cannot be completed just verbally.

If your thoughts don’t align with your actions, your child will be able to sense the difference which will only make the matter worse.

If your child is handicapped and all you feel for him is sorry, no matter how many times you say something different, he won’t get the message.

And when your child do shows some intolerable behavior, let him/her know it’s their behavior, not them that is not tolerable.



The worst thing you can do to your child is to compare them to others especially to their friends, siblings or cousins.

With this kind of parenting, the only thing you are going to promote in your child is resentment towards you and hatred towards their “competitor”.

Instead you should let them know their unique capabilities. You can point out their weaknesses in a healthy manner instead of just bashing them in front of their friends and families.


Problem Solving

It’s instinctual for parents to help their child whenever they are about to make a mistake, feeling discouraged or disappointed – when he is struggling with his math problem or when she wasn’t given the lead in the school play.

Let them know its okay to feel that way and its okay to not get everything they want.

Realize children don’t build confidence by having you remove the hurdles. They build it by overcoming it themselves.

Do them a favor, let them know you are there for them always but they have to take complete the challenge themselves. A little hint or help here and there won’t hurt but that’s all it should be – an occasional push.
Caveat: Don’t pressure your kids to win. This might lead them to believe they are only worthy of love if they win.



Let your child make their own decision. This is important for them as they ought to know they have a say in their own life and that their judgment matters.

Of course you wouldn’t want them to decide the house’s budget but the good news is you don’t need to.

Giving them options for small things such as to decide what dress they would like to wear or what sport they want to learn can be a great boost for them.

Occasionally you can ask their opinion on serious stuffs like your business meetings.

Sounds funny?

While you don’t necessarily have to execute their saying, the confidence it gives them knowing that they have the capability to make big decisions is well worth the try. And who knows, you might get to hear something from a kids perspective that proves to be the game changer.


Positive Aspects

Negativity and positivity are both important.

You don’t want your child to think that everything will go his way. Sometimes negative thoughts are invaluable.

But we are living in a world that’s full of negativity so you can leave the lesson of negativity to people around him.

As parents, you should help him/her to focus on the positive sides and help her improve the negative aspects.

So when your son isn’t selected in the school soccer team, instead or saying something like “you’re worthless” or even something likes “you’re the best player”, make him analyze his mistake and help him correct his mistake.

Let him know to get what he wants, he ought to deserve it. And to deserve it he must work for it.



From a very early age, you should expose your child to wide range of activities. From soccer to piano, from cooking to acting, and when your kids find something they are passionate for, let them pursue it.

Kids who are supported from an early age on their hobbies are more likely to get successful. They are more likely to struggle less to make friends. And who knows, one day it might even lead them to pursue their passion professionally.

Let your kid decide what he wants to do. Just because she is a girl doesn’t mean she ought to pursue piano as her hobby.


Helping Hand

Let your kid know that their effort might make a difference.

You can give them their household responsibilities but an even better idea is to let them help somebody.

Seeing that they can make difference in someone else’s life and work can help them to become confident. This way you are teaching them the principals of unselfish sometimes and help others and the same time a valuable confidence building practice that they have the capability to make difference in someone else’s life.

How about asking their help for one of your projects? Seeing you work, they might even learn a valuable lesson that could only prove to be beneficial for their future.


Grown-ups Friendship

As important as it is for your kids to hang around other kids, it’s equally important for them to know adults.

This way their mind can expand and they can learn invaluable lessons. They become mature in the process. Talking to parents is great but you should also let them talk to other grown-ups.

Especially if you could find a mentor for them for the skill they are passionate about, it could open a whole new world of opportunities for them.

Caveat: Don’t let them engage to every other adult. Do a background research of the person you are letting your kid talk to.


Goal setting

You should teach your kid the importance of goal setting from the very early age. Nothing will boost the confidence like the kid who accomplishes the goal he/she is going after.
Don’t set unrealistic goals or the strategy will backfire.

Let them take baby steps (duh!) and let them take on challenges one at a time.

After they grow up a bit, you should also ask them career orientated questions. Don’t let them get discouraged. Let them know it’s okay if they change their mind in the future.



The Ultimate Guide to Create a Bullet Proof Confidence of Kids

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